Hi, I'm Ela Compton
Can we state the obvious? Mothers of infants and toddlers hold the future of humanity in their hands. Literally.
Shaping those little mind-bodies daily (consciously or not.)
Yet, the story of motherhood is fragmented, often fake, and outdated. New mothers struggle to fit in, wasting so much energy.
I remember vividly: feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and isolated, taking care of my infant daughter 24/7 with no support within 5000 miles. I also felt ashamed of being unhappy in my daughter's face. I ended up at my doctor's crying. I was offered a choice between pills and counseling. Neither worked for me; I did not have PPD like 80% of struggling moms.
I craved opportunities to calm down my nervous system, recharge, reconnect with myself to remember who I am.
But… I never had time for any self-care!
Inspired by near-desperation, I decided to try practicing emotional self-care with my daughter in tow. It worked. Not only did I feel nourished, calmer, and grounded, but my daughter seemed easier to manage too.
That's when the Parents Pause started. We rolled out programs that deliver tailored science-backed emotional self-care tools to frazzled, sleep-deprived, and overstressed parents (I've been there, I know.)
Did you know: your baby reflects your mental states, recreates your emotional patterns from day one? Infants mirror their primary caregiver's brain waves, synchronize heart rate, stress hormones, oxytocin, etc.
But that was not enough!
Early motherhood acts like a burning glass for the conditioning we women carry. Like many new moms, I was not only sleep-deprived but was bumping against the motherhood story the society brainwashed me into.
I found myself asking permission to trust my judgment, my needs - myself as a mother - as I was perpetually clashing with the expectations and arbitrary measures of mom-perfection.
I didn't want the shame to poison my life in this vulnerable and precious months of early motherhood. I felt rage and a burning desire to redefine what a good mother is.
I wanted us collectively to tell a new motherhood story rooted in self-trust, body wisdom, emotional presence, self-compassion in the inevitable messiness of it all. A motherhood story we were meant to unleash if we just followed our innate knowing.
Because that is exactly what our kids need. Thriving, emotionally resilient mom, modeling healthy emotional patterns via osmosis (not literally, but you get the idea). The first three years of life are critical - an opportunity not to be missed. That's why we'll teach you how to protect and nurture your energy, influence others and reconnect with your own wisdom.
I am excited to invite YOU on this journey - jailbreaking from the motherhood we all struggle with. You will learn how to have the unshakable trust in yourself, and build the support you deserve. So you can live your motherhood with joy and ease your way.
What our future world need is thriving mothers of young kids, not good mothers martyrs. You are holding the future of humankind in your hands. Never brush it off.
Creating a legacy of love in your family starts with YOU loving yourself.
With love and appreciation,
Ela Compton
Founder of Parents Pause,, creator of Exhausted Mom Revive moment.