Hi, I'm Ela Compton
Can we state the obvious? Mothers of infants and toddlers hold the future of humanity in their hands. Literally.
Shaping those little mind-bodies daily (consciously or not.)
Yet, the story of motherhood is fragmented, often fake, and outdated. New mothers struggle to fit in, so much energy is wasted.
Let's create a new guiding tale for mothers.
What our future world need is thriving mothers of young kids.
It was a cold winter (the kind with squicky snow) when I gave birth to my daughter in my hometown in Europe. I cared for her on my own (friends/family nearby) for 3 months. It was hard.
I was high in hopes of sharing the load with my partner once we join in Seattle. Nah. I remember vividly: feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and isolated, taking care of my infant daughter 24/7 with no support within 5000 miles. I also felt ashamed of being unhappy in my daughter's face. I ended up at my doctor's crying, was offered a choice between pills and counseling. Neither worked for me.
I craved opportunities to calm down my nervous system, recharge, reconnect with myself to remember who I am.
But… I never had time for any self-care!
Inspired by near-desperation, I decided to try practicing emotional self-care with my daughter in arms. To my surprise, it worked. Not only did I feel nourished, calmer, and grounded, but my daughter seemed easier to manage too. Wow! I discovered a way to replenish while caring for my daughter!
But there was more I struggled with...
This whole instagram-perfect motherhood picture felt fake. There was the despair story of postpartum depression on the other end. AND NOTHING IN BETWEEN - which is where most moms fall into.
It soon became clear that many other moms feel disoriented, isolated, and stressed out, just like me. That's when the Parents' Pause started. We rolled out programs that deliver tailored science-backed emotional self-care tools to frazzled, sleep-deprived, and overstressed parents (I've been there, I know.)
Did you know: your baby reflects your mental states, recreates your emotional patterns from day one? Infants mirror their primary caregiver's brain waves, synchronize heart rate, stress hormones, oxytocin, etc.
If you parent with confidence, from your wisdom, with emotional presence, not only you feel more joyful and alive, THIS also gives your kid an advantage for life. An emotionally resilient mom is modeling essential coping skills and healthy patterns via osmosis (not literally, but you get the idea). The first 3 years of life are critical.
That's why you need to learn tools to protect, boost and nurture your energy. But this starts with a bigger shift...
Embark on the transformation that will reunite you with your greatness (and make your life way easier.) I am over the moon excited to invite YOU on this journey - jailbreaking from the motherhood cage we all struggle with. You will learn how to trust yourself, support, and care for yourself. You are holding the future of humankind in your hands after all. Never brush it off.
Creating a legacy of true resilience and love in your family starts with YOU.
With love and appreciation,
Ela Compton
Founder of Parents Pause creator of #MothersoftheFuture