We mothers and caregivers, especially those with young or special kids, are exhausted – and for good reasons.
Society is putting the suffering burden back on us – 'you need more self-care: relax and don't ruffle feathers.'
Let me show you how to protect your resources from draining.
Start doing less, and care for yourself more with healthy boundaries.
Learn to CHOOSE how you expend your energy - instead of running yourself to the ground on autopilot.
Learning how to set healthy boundaries is fun with this workbook filled with tools used by the FBI hostage negotiators. How appropriate...
This is the the kind of selfcare we caregivers need. To protect our resources for what matters most!
He said: 'I don't know what you are doing here, but this is different.' And that's how I made him happy to help me more! Mindblown. Thank you, FBI, for the negotiation techniques:)."
Margo, coaching client
I profoundly care that caregivers get their vitality and joy of living back. I believe we can reclaim our energy by alchemizing difficult emotions, reconnecting to their deep intelligence, and setting firm boundaries.
I used to share meditation practices with new moms, and then I realized that certain kinds of self-care can have the opposite effect if we are smushed by societal conditioning.
We need to create the mental space to realize what we even need! Right?
So I studied power dynamics and empathic negotiation techniques to learn the tools that changed my life.
You know who the experts on time-saving and effort-avoiding are? Men.
They learn these tricks in their childhood via osmosis and practice for life. So now I broke them down so you can learn too - and it is fun!
I want all humans raised as women to own their greatness because we ARE LOVE on this planet. And BTW, when you have your agency back, everyone around you benefits in significant ways.
You, as a mother, hold the future of this planet in your hands - literally. Own it.
This time is precious. You are precious.
Let's do it!
With my mentors: Chris Germer Ph.D., a co-creator of the Mindful Self-Compassion curriculum (with Dr. Kristin Neff), and Dr. Dan Siegel - renowned child psychiatrist, best-selling author, and speaker.
I was exhausted; my anxiety was through the roof. I felt hopeless. Ela showed me how many opportunities there are to save my energy. I finished the training restored and grounded, ready to take on new challenges. Now I have tools to keep myself sane :) Interestingly, my son is easier to manage now.”
Sada, online program participant
...in an environment that is supportive, open, and accepting. I have learned so much and was able to get rid of my crazy thoughts that were making me feel miserable. Now I enjoy being a mom so much more and I know what to do to protect myself when things don’t go according to plan.”
If strong means taking care of everyone else
to the detriment of yourself,
if strong means pretending everything is okay
when clearly you’re hurting,
if strong means keeping it moving
after you’ve suffered disappointment,
then, strong becomes weak.
Strong is good, resilience is better.
Learn the techniques used in hostage negotiations (and by all the men in your life) to protect your energy.
This stuff works and is FUN to learn!