We mothers, especially those with young or special kids, are exhausted and in rage – and for good reasons.
It breaks my heart to see mothers in emotional pain, crushed by the EXPECTATIONS and disconnected from their natural wisdom. Because this connection was severed in their childhood.
I am appalled at how society is putting the suffering burden back on us – 'you need more self-care, just meditate more, do some yoga and shut up.'
Let me show you how to protect your resources from draining.
Start doing less, care for yourself more, and CHOOSE how you expend your energy - instead of running yourself to the ground on autopilot.
I profoundly care that mothers get their vitality and joy of living back by alchemizing their anger and other challenging emotions, reconnecting to their deep intelligence, and setting firm boundaries.
I used to share meditation and self-compassion practices with moms, and then I realized: all that self-care can have the opposite effect if we are smushed by societal conditioning and don't process our emotions. Sometimes we must be fierce first to create the mind space to realize what we need. Right?
So I studied power dynamics and empathic negotiation techniques to learn the tools that changed my life.
You know who the experts on time-saving and effort-avoiding are. Men.
They learn these tricks in their childhood via osmosis and practice for life. Now I broke them down so you can learn too - and it is fun!
I want all humans raised as woman to own their greatness because we ARE LOVE on this planet. And BTW, when you have you agency back, everyone around you benefits in big ways.
You, as a mother, hold the future of this planet in your hands - literally. Own it.
This time is precious. You are precious.
Let's do it!
I was exhausted; my anxiety was through the roof. I felt hopeless. Ela showed me how many opportunities there are to save my energy. I finished the training restored and grounded, ready to take on new challenges. Now I have tools to keep myself sane :) Interestingly, my son is easier to manage now.”
Sada, online program participant
He said: 'I don't know what you are doing here, but this is different'. And that's is how I made him happy to help me more! Mindblown. Thank you FBI for the negotiation techniques:)"
Margo, coaching client
...in an environment that is supportive, open, and accepting. I have learned so much and was able to get rid of my crazy thoughts that were making me feel miserable. Now I enjoy being a mom so much more and I know what to do to protect myself when things don’t go according to plan.”
If strong means taking care of everyone else
to the detriment of yourself,
if strong means pretending everything is okay
when clearly you’re hurting,
if strong means keeping it moving
after you’ve suffered disappointment,
then, strong becomes weak.
Strong is good, resilience is better.